Know What You Want in a Man February 25, 2025

Know What You Want in a Man

So….. you’re newly single and rather lonely and would love to go out with a nice man. You
might be on a dating site or perhaps joined a singles pickleball group in your area. It doesn’t
matter. You want to be taken out.
Here are some things to consider. Do I want a friend in a new guy? Am I looking for a guy
with money? Do I want someone who treats me like a queen? Do I want to be wined and
dined? Would I like a travel companion? Does age matter? What if your new guy has children?
These questions are essential to consider. This is about setting dating goals that will make you
happy.
This may sound silly to think through, but you are probably older and do not want the same
things you did when you were younger.
Here are some key ways you might identify what you want:
Self-Reflection
 Past relationships can help clarify what worked and what did, guiding future choices.
This exercise might be a work in progress. You might date and realize different areas that
you did not think of before. Add them before you forget.
 Write what worked in the past that made you happy.
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 Name some areas that are non-negotiable for you.
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I have tried to give you some areas I have considered when thinking about what I want.
1. Experience
 Experience different types of relationships to see what you like in a man or what you
want to avoid. For example, I have learned that men who have never been married are
not necessarily my type.
2. Compatibility

 Reflect on what aligns with your lifestyle, communication style, and ambitions. For
example, compatibility in intellectual pursuits, humour, or emotional availability might be
necessary.
3. Physical and Emotional Needs
 Preferences for physical attraction vary greatly, but emotional traits like kindness,
respect and stability are common priorities.
 One might look for someone who provides emotional support, listens, and values your
opinions.
4. Communication
 Clear conversations with potential partners about mutual goals, desires, and boundaries
often help define what you truly want in a relationship.
5. Trial and Error
 Sometimes, preferences aren't fully formed until they're put to the test in real-life
situations. A woman might think she values one trait but realizes another is more
important through experience.
At the core, figuring out what you want in a partner is a personal journey that grows and changes
over time. The process is about aligning with someone who complements your unique
personality and aspirations.
If it’s something you like to do, I suggest a journal to keep your thoughts written down so they
Stay at the forefront of your decision-making.